I knew that not using a condom wasn’t smart, but I think I felt invincible or something.It’s hard to look back now and figure out what the hell I was thinking.” There are an estimated 1.2 million people living with HIV in the United States. “I naively thought I was invincible, that one day a hookup would lead to true Disney princess–style love, and never assumed that HIV would have anything do with my life,” she admitted.
“He ordered ordered another drink, thoughtfully, and then said, ‘Well, that’s OK, you can still go down on me, right?
“Dating with HIV, seriously or casually, is hard — even though it doesn’t have to be,” wrote the Temple University graduate.
“I am HIV positive, but it is undetectable.” That means Fratti — who takes an antiretroviral drug every day— cannot transmit the virus.
“But as a single heterosexual woman, I have the added challenge when dating of convincing men, who are often just as naive as I used to be, that they can be intimate with me.
It feels like I have to twist someone’s arm to see past my HIV viral load. is not the greatest pick-up line, and it’s certainly not great for my self-esteem.” This past summer, Fratti began sharing her status on dating apps right around the time when the potential suitor would suggest meeting in person.’ I paid the bill and left.” She continued: “The few — very, very few — who were not as terrible were equally worthless.